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When the Day of Roses & Hugs for Mothers Ends, Don’t Forget

Here’s a regular conversation:

“Hey, Simon! How’s life? How did that History presentation go?” asked Lily.

“Wassup! Life’s alright. The History thing was better than I thought, but now I have a big Math test coming up. How’ve you been?”

“Oof, Math sucks. Hope it goes well. I’ve been pretty great, actually! My cousins flew in the day before yesterday, so hanging out with them has been fun. What about- oh, are those new shoes? They look great!” exclaimed Lily.

“Thanks! Yeah, my mom saw that my old shoes were kinda beat up, so she bought these ones. I really like them. They’re my favorite color, too.” said Simon.

“Yeah, they’re nice. So, how’s. . . .”


Hope that was entertaining. 😎 Just kidding, that wasn’t the point of this (I promise to get to the point—later). A little over a week ago was Mother’s Day. (Actually, it was supposed to be a week ago, but with finals and everything, I wasn’t able to work on this or publish it last Sunday as planned. Hence, a random Wednesday. In June. Hehe, sorry.)

Honestly, I didn’t do as much as I could’ve and should’ve to honor my mom. For some reason, it was kind of weird. Usually, I do more. This is a shift that many teens go through.

We sometimes use the excuse that our creativity is burnt, and so we just don’t write any cards or organize anything special. And while in some cases burnt imagination does happen, it can also be us teenagers thinking, “I’m too old for little kid cards and pretend spas.” After years of making Valentine’s Day cards for my four older sisters, I’ve learned to just go with the grind. . . even if I get hand cramps.

And I know, sometimes there are things you do when you’re a kid. But even you can be creative. I’m sure of this. The Author of Everything knows this. Simply searching, “things a teenager can do for mother’s day,” Google gave me dozens of options and ideas.

Mother’s Day, however, has already passed. So why would I post this a good deal after Mother’s Day?

We as humans tend to forget the past: one of the main reasons history seems to repeat itself. It’s the same with Mother’s Day. On that day, we remember the love, patience, and selflessness our dear mothers display, and the day after we snap at them for accidentally calling us our dog’s name instead of ours. Why is this?

The answer: life goes on, and we go with it. One day we’re stressing horribly over school, and the next year we completely forget how miserable it was. It’s the same with Mother’s Day.

Now let me answer the question I ignored above: Why would I intend to post this a week after Mother’s Day? As a reminder to not forget to love, honor, and respect our moms.

I can say that, and you can agree, but that doesn’t take us very far, does it? So let me stress one fault that keeps many from seeing how they mistreat their mothers: it is mental blindness. Not being able to hear one’s own tone, see one’s own actions, and maybe even understand the argument of another. Mental blindness is also a form of pride, and pride is powerful.

I’m guilty of this. You may be too. But since we are too blind to see it, how can we fix it?? The answer is simple, but a little difficult.

Suck up your pride, put on some humility, and ask trusted ones. Now, now, before you start exclaiming, “I don’t have the courage to ask my parents that!” That’s not the end of my point. If you don’t have a whole lot of courage yet or struggle with pride, start with friends or mentors—trusted, respectful, hopefully faith-filled friends, especially those who are strong with introspection. The older, the better.

Ask them, “Am I mentally blind? Do I tend to have big faults that I don’t notice? What are they?” And then begin a conversation about this.

From there, either move to siblings or parents (depending on who you’re more comfortable with).

Now here, I got stumped—for several days. “What advice should I provide? What other thoughts should I share?” In all transparency, I didn’t feel qualified to write this. That’s the dilemma I’ve faced with several posts on Christianity, too. Because I’m not even close to perfection in being a Christian and a son, and that’s brought about Writer’s Block.

Wow, that spiel did help. Let’s keep going. I’ll refer back to the conversation at the top. It was a small act of kindness from Simon’s mother. I wanted it to be as random as possible, just to represent day-to-day mother’s intuition.

Now, we don’t know much else about Simon’s mother. I know she’s not perfect. She could be one of those mothers who leaves you thinking, “Wow, he does not deserve a mom like that,” or maybe Simon and she don’t agree or get along. Maybe she’s treated him poorly; maybe she’s neglected him.

However, she’s his mother, and that’s something significant. She did much more than buy him shoes. She gave birth to him, nursed him, and raised him. That is still more than any guy I know could comprehend.

Some mothers are wonderful; some try; some are. . . difficult; some almost completely leave you alone when you become independent—but I haven’t met many of the latter. Whether she deserves it or not (and I’m sure she deserves it), love your mother, and show it.


Now, I’m not saying to walk up to your mother and shout, “Happy belated Mother’s Day!” That’s not what I’m trying to communicate here. It’s a day-by-day thing, and not easy for our imperfect human brains, but do your best to acknowledge her. Reveal your love through quality time, gifts, words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, etc.

Start with what you do best, and go from there.

(I hope you enjoyed this and know I love you, Mamá. 🙃)

Farewell, and have a good day! I love how this post is several days closer to Father’s Day than Mother’s Day. Guys, life is radical. ‘Least I’m done with “official” school.

With God’s help,

~Daniel Amador

Christian Living, Young Adult Life

When Your Hardest Doesn’t Go Highest (Society’s Secret Scandal)

One of the most frustrating experiences for an ambitious youth is to pour all their heart into any sort of project and its ends up fruitless and overlooked. It’s disheartening when you try so hard—harder than all those around you, it seems—and you still end up at the bottom! No one likes to be that one mountain climber who has all the rocks crumbling beneath them.

You keep trying to scale the ladder, but everyone else is either shooting past you, pulling you down, or kicking you back. The whole reason people want to climb high to the top is, simply put, to get that ‘high’ feeling. “So what’s the solution? How can I ever feel truly accomplished if that high only lasts a moment?”

Stop climbing the ladder. Let go and let Jesus carry you.

Maybe that sounds like one of those cute, cliche quotes you’ll find on Social Media that are inspirational… but completely unhelpful. So let me explain further.

Society’s Secret Scandal

Society, today’s popular culture, sees the world as a ladder. A mountain we’re all meant to spend our whole lives climbing. The best future envisioned in society’s eyes is having a good education, spending your youthful days enjoying your physical prime and having as much fun as possible, then spending the rest of your life pursuing what career and person you love, and getting rich and famous off your job—thus making the whole focus of life power and love.

It’s really a hopeless reality.

This is why people who have real relationships with Jesus tend to have better mental, emotional, and physical health. Even if they still deal with depression, sickness, weakness, and other struggles, they know where they’re going, they know they have a purpose, and they know they are loved! If purpose is power (maybe a mental power), then the real Christian has power, love, and destiny. That’s a one-up to society. 😎

All this to say, society’s secret scandal is the sly lie it spreads to every teenager and young adult: if you can’t climb high, you don’t deserve the high, or happiness.

Jesus’ Generous Gift

Your hardest climbing might not always bring you to the top. Your fastest running might not always bring you farthest. That’s when society’s lie kicks in. You feel hopeless, undeserving, and good-for-nothing.

So when your hardest doesn’t go highest, doesn’t take you higher, don’t believe the society’s sneaky lie—instead, remember Jesus’ generous gift! Salvation from hopelessness. Peace during the storms. Eternal paradise in Heaven when you die. Never-ending forgiveness through repentance.

Never give up on what God is calling you to do! Also, remember that hard work doesn’t do it all—knowledge of what you’re pursuing, wisdom on how to pursue it, and support from those more experienced are all vital!

Let me rephrase: Stop climbing the ladder. Let go and let Christ carry you—even if he takes you off the wide ladder to the narrow pathway on the side. After all, Jesus’ plans do seem sideways to the popular culture. 😉

With God’s help,

Daniel Amador